What I stressed was that the goals, if you take them seriously, are aspirational - not easy to do, and not things we can do just by wanting to do them. This means we'll surely fail along the way, even as we try to get better at them. We should be compassionate with others and ourselves when that happens; we'll help each other grow in this. This connected to my framing point that it makes a big difference if we think of the pledges as articulated in first person singular or plural. I urged the second: letting it be plural acknowledges there are things I can't do on my own but we can help each do. That's why we seminar!
The funny thing is that B was enthusiastic about these ideas, as if they hadn't come in part from her! In particular she thanked me for the way my presentation built in compassion at our own imperfection. But I'm pretty sure it's from being a witness to her efforts to be a better listener, citizen, friend, person that I learned about that...